The Long Journey Home

  From Narc Abuse Survivors- Individual Coaching Clients "     I do see all your posts and I can only say that you are a messiah for the bruised souls of narcissistic abuse victims. Each of your posts are subtle, heart touching and very true. The world needs more people like you who took the noble initiative of standing next to narcissistic abuse victims and supporting them. This itself is great in every possible way and we bless you from the core of our heart. " "You are doing a fabulous job of taking up the issue of something, which majority of the world isn't even aware of." "After speaking to you I felt like someone finally validated my reality. For the first time after so long , I felt that there is hope and I can get myself out of this situation. Thank you so much for the coaching sessions . I cannot express how grateful I feel after the sessions. It felt like a huge burden has been lifted off my chest and now I feel so free. I am actually able to enj...

Societal conditioning makes it easier for us to digest when a parent chooses to cut out their adult child for any reason. We justify that the parent has done a lot for the child and yet the child has been abusive toward the parent or in some instances even due to marrying someone else out of their religion or community or for coming out with a confession about being Gay or trans sexual or not adhering to religious beliefs etc, some parents have cut off their adult children. Such actions by the parents are met with approval and sometimes even sympathy for the parent and this is more culturally acceptable.  But what about when an adult child chooses to estrange from a toxic parent or parent in law? This is such a taboo even today despite so many psychological interventions and research available to everyone.   It is met with shame , disapproval and judgement and as a society we are conditioned to question such actions. Even religious texts talk about how deeply grateful one...

 Most of my clients' main issue is how to set boundaries and deal with a toxic family member- a toxic parent, toxic partner, toxic adult child, toxic siblings or toxic in laws. The struggle is real and in South Asian cultures and Indian culture , we are conditioned as a society to put our family first and to ignore red flags and dysfunctional behaviour. We are conditioned to make excuses for a toxic family member's bad behaviour with excuses like " They are your family" or "They have no one else so you can't abandon them" or "They have had a tough life so try to be forgive them and be kind" or" You will regret it when they die" or"Think about your kids" or "Log kya kahenge"? . The excuses are many but you get the idea right?   You can try having a healthy conversation about your needs and emotions with toxic family members- That is a necessary first step. But if it falls on deaf ears and if toxic , manipulative beh...