The Long Journey Home

Are you a people pleaser? Do you tend to put others’ needs before your own needs?  Do you feel bad saying No to others? Does your self esteem depend on external validation? Do you value your self esteem as per what others think or say about you? Do you feel like you can’t be yourself around others? Do you tend to bottle up your emotions and then break down unexpectedly ? If your answer is a Yes to most of the above, it is highly likely that you are a people pleaser my friend! Did you know that your unresolved emotions can set like cement inside your body and start showing up as health issues? Not a great feeling and how do I know this? Because I myself am a recovering people pleaser !! If you develop thyroid issues, First question to ask yourself is this-  Do I tend to suppress my emotions? Do I struggle to speak my truth? When your throat chakra gets blocked , it shows up as thyroid issues and you can medicate yourself all you want but unless you start speaking up about yo...

  As a narcissistic abuse recovery life coach, I have been working closely with many brave survivors of abuse, who have decided enough is enough and are working hard to reclaim their life post abuse. It takes immense amount of courage and hard work to do the inner work that is required to heal and recover post narcissistic abuse.   As a part of my research for my upcoming book on abuse survivors’ stories, I have been asking around in the abuse survivor groups and my clients to understand what has really helped them to heal and recover post narcissistic abuse. Keep watching this space for more updates on my upcoming book- The long journey home and also for tips to heal. Below is a quick summary of my findings and these are real tips from abuse survivors and not textbook information: Therapy/coaching - Many have confirmed that having a mental health partner in their healing journey has helped them immensely to hold them accountable, create more clarity about their next s...

  As a narcissistic abuse recovery life coach, I have been helping my clients to get out of the victim mindset and transform their life through self healing techniques. During the process of coaching a recurring theme that has come up especially in the context of Indian Culture is the enmeshment that Parents have sometimes with their Adult children which in turn negatively impacts the Adult child's marriage.  It is normal for a child to grow up and shift priorities to their partner especially once they are married. But what happens in enmeshed parent-child relationships is that the adult child struggles with a lot of guilt to shift their priority to their partner and this causes a lot of strain in their marriage.  Having gathered inputs from my clients and having done my research in this area, I can safely say that if you dig deeper into divorces and couples falling apart, there will be an enmeshed parent who has a big role to play. Not all divorces happen because of enme...

  As a life coach, the most asked question by my clients who are recovering from abusive relationships is " When will I know that I have completely healed ?". There is no clear answer to this and it depends on each person's emotional resilience and the amount of healing work that you are committed to do. Some may heal and move on in just few weeks or months and some may take even few years and some may never completely heal from the trauma of abuse. Healing is non-linear and there will be days when you feel completely healed -on top of the world and  some days when you regress backwards and fall apart again. Stay with the process and trust that you will heal. Do not give up on yourself ! Abuse changes you as a person and you can't go back to who you were earlier even if you wish to go back. A physical wound heals with time and medication but what about your emotional wounds? The more you suppress it, the stronger the pain becomes and it manifests as physical health is...