The Long Journey Home

 Most of my clients' main issue is how to set boundaries and deal with a toxic family member- a toxic parent, toxic partner, toxic adult child, toxic siblings or toxic in laws. The struggle is real and in South Asian cultures and Indian culture , we are conditioned as a society to put our family first and to ignore red flags and dysfunctional behaviour. We are conditioned to make excuses for a toxic family member's bad behaviour with excuses like " They are your family" or "They have no one else so you can't abandon them" or "They have had a tough life so try to be forgive them and be kind" or" You will regret it when they die" or"Think about your kids" or "Log kya kahenge"? . The excuses are many but you get the idea right?   You can try having a healthy conversation about your needs and emotions with toxic family members- That is a necessary first step. But if it falls on deaf ears and if toxic , manipulative beh...

Are you a people pleaser? Do you tend to put others’ needs before your own needs?  Do you feel bad saying No to others? Does your self esteem depend on external validation? Do you value your self esteem as per what others think or say about you? Do you feel like you can’t be yourself around others? Do you tend to bottle up your emotions and then break down unexpectedly ? If your answer is a Yes to most of the above, it is highly likely that you are a people pleaser my friend! Did you know that your unresolved emotions can set like cement inside your body and start showing up as health issues? Not a great feeling and how do I know this? Because I myself am a recovering people pleaser !! If you develop thyroid issues, First question to ask yourself is this-  Do I tend to suppress my emotions? Do I struggle to speak my truth? When your throat chakra gets blocked , it shows up as thyroid issues and you can medicate yourself all you want but unless you start speaking up about yo...

  As a life coach, the most asked question by my clients who are recovering from abusive relationships is " When will I know that I have completely healed ?". There is no clear answer to this and it depends on each person's emotional resilience and the amount of healing work that you are committed to do. Some may heal and move on in just few weeks or months and some may take even few years and some may never completely heal from the trauma of abuse. Healing is non-linear and there will be days when you feel completely healed -on top of the world and  some days when you regress backwards and fall apart again. Stay with the process and trust that you will heal. Do not give up on yourself ! Abuse changes you as a person and you can't go back to who you were earlier even if you wish to go back. A physical wound heals with time and medication but what about your emotional wounds? The more you suppress it, the stronger the pain becomes and it manifests as physical health is...