The Long Journey Home

 Most of my clients' main issue is how to set boundaries and deal with a toxic family member- a toxic parent, toxic partner, toxic adult child, toxic siblings or toxic in laws. The struggle is real and in South Asian cultures and Indian culture , we are conditioned as a society to put our family first and to ignore red flags and dysfunctional behaviour. We are conditioned to make excuses for a toxic family member's bad behaviour with excuses like " They are your family" or "They have no one else so you can't abandon them" or "They have had a tough life so try to be forgive them and be kind" or" You will regret it when they die" or"Think about your kids" or "Log kya kahenge"? . The excuses are many but you get the idea right?   You can try having a healthy conversation about your needs and emotions with toxic family members- That is a necessary first step. But if it falls on deaf ears and if toxic , manipulative beh...

  Hello there! If you happen to visit my blog, maybe you were looking for red flags of abuse or trying to understand what narcissistic abuse is all about. I'm currently working on a book called "The Long Journey Home" where I will be sharing survivor stories to create more awareness and also to teach self healing techniques. If you are someone who is affected by verbal, emotional, psychological , financial or physical abuse- please know this -  You do not deserve to be abused and you deserve to set boundaries and heal from your trauma .  As a narcissistic abuse recovery life coach, I help my clients to identify red flags of abuse, set healthy boundaries and reclaim their life by starting out their healing journey. It is a transformational journey and one worth pursuing. You don't deserve to live in pain and shame of being abused. You can open up and share your stories with me and I will help your story to reach out to the world through my blogs and my upcoming book. I...

Are you a people pleaser? Do you tend to put others’ needs before your own needs?  Do you feel bad saying No to others? Does your self esteem depend on external validation? Do you value your self esteem as per what others think or say about you? Do you feel like you can’t be yourself around others? Do you tend to bottle up your emotions and then break down unexpectedly ? If your answer is a Yes to most of the above, it is highly likely that you are a people pleaser my friend! Did you know that your unresolved emotions can set like cement inside your body and start showing up as health issues? Not a great feeling and how do I know this? Because I myself am a recovering people pleaser !! If you develop thyroid issues, First question to ask yourself is this-  Do I tend to suppress my emotions? Do I struggle to speak my truth? When your throat chakra gets blocked , it shows up as thyroid issues and you can medicate yourself all you want but unless you start speaking up about yo...

  As a narcissistic abuse recovery life coach, I have been working closely with many brave survivors of abuse, who have decided enough is enough and are working hard to reclaim their life post abuse. It takes immense amount of courage and hard work to do the inner work that is required to heal and recover post narcissistic abuse.   As a part of my research for my upcoming book on abuse survivors’ stories, I have been asking around in the abuse survivor groups and my clients to understand what has really helped them to heal and recover post narcissistic abuse. Keep watching this space for more updates on my upcoming book- The long journey home and also for tips to heal. Below is a quick summary of my findings and these are real tips from abuse survivors and not textbook information: Therapy/coaching - Many have confirmed that having a mental health partner in their healing journey has helped them immensely to hold them accountable, create more clarity about their next s...

 As a part of Narcissistic Abuse Awareness, this month, each day I will be sharing in detail about aspects of narcissistic abuse. Today's topic is about an emotional abuse tactic called Gaslighting.  Have you come across this term before? What does that even mean ?  Oxford dictionary define gaslighting as manipulating someone by psychological means to doubt their own sanity. This is a very commonly used tool by an abuser to control their victim's sense of reality. An abuser may deny what they did or said to confuse the victim's reality or they may deflect blame back to the victim. They may drag the victim into nonsensical arguments called word salad leaving their victim in a state of confusion and feeling like they are going crazy.  Most victims of narcissistic abuse feel mentally unfit , start self doubting themselves and also feel they are being over sensitive or over reacting when in reality they have every right to feel that way for being treated badly by the n...