Reactive Abuse - How to deal with it?

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 Narc abuse awareness series



🍀Did you know that Reactive abuse causes extreme guilt and shame in victims of narcissistic abuse?
It goes against the grain of who they really are . Most of the victims would have been peace loving , friendly , easy going people ,who after being in a state of hyper vigilance and anxiety for years , due to being exposed to a chronic cycle of abuse , may burst out in rage once in a way when provoked by their abuser and they may say or do things which otherwise normally would never do.
The abusers then use their victim's reaction to make them feel guilty about their outburst and keeps them stuck in the cycle of abuse.

To anyone out there who can resonate with these circumstances, please know this :

1. You are only human and you are not Buddha to be in a state of absolutely no reaction
2. It is ok to feel the guilt and shame as you move through these complex emotions
3. Never allow anyone to gaslight your reality and threaten you to believe their version of who you are
4. Stay true to yourself and you need not prove anything
5. Reach out immediately to a narc informed mental health practitioner for help in dealing with these situations
😳Narcissistic abuse is one of the worst abuse of human rights in our times. The more we shine light on this topic , the less power narc abusers have over their victims.
🌻Please help in spreading the word about narcissistic abuse even if you are not personally affected by it.
🍀You may help someone out there who really needs help but has been silenced and shamed by their abusers.

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